When it comes to planning your wedding, the first dance is an iconic moment—the one where the couple takes to the floor as newlyweds to dance to a lovesong that means something to them. But if you’re a couple who is shy or not comfortable with dancing in front of people, you may be feeling overwhelmed by this tradition. This is something that comes up a lot in my Facebook community for modern couples. I always say, don’t force yourself if it gives you the ick because you’ll end up dreading it all day long. Go easy on yourself, and don’t worry – there are plenty of alternatives that can make your first dance memorable without forcing you to step out of your comfort zone. Here are a few creative ideas to get your juices flowing!

1. Plan a Surprise Performance

If you don’t want to do a traditional first dance, why not surprise your guests with something unique? You could organize a flash mob or hire dancers to put on a show instead making sure your guests are primed to hit the dancefloor afterwards. It’s guaranteed to be unexpected and fun!

2. Do Something Low-Key

You don’t have to actually “dance” in order to have that first dance moment. Take this opportunity to walk down memory lane by sharing stories and funny moments from when you were dating or engaged. This will give your guests an insight into your relationship while also making them laugh and feel more connected with you both as individuals and as a couple.

3. Make it Interactive

Another great idea is to have all your guests join in on the dance floor for an en masse dance! Pick a song that everyone knows so that no one feels out of place. This alternative is great for shy couples who still want their guests involved but don't want all eyes on them. It will also help break down any walls between guests and make sure that nobody feels self-conscious about hitting the dancefloor.

4. Pour a champagne tower

This one is guaranteed to get the party started, it’s something you can both do together, and it makes for a great photo opportunity!!

5. Play Your Guests A Custom Wedding Song

Yes! It’s a thing! Book Of Love directory babe, Tom Shaw, crafts bespoke wedding songs that tell your love story and remains unique and personal to you, forever! Imagine surprising each other, or your guests with something as special as that?! You’ll find Tom listed in the ‘Entertainment’ category of our online supplier directory.

6. Skip It Altogether

Ok, not the most creative solution but it’s your wedding and if none of these alternatives sound like your style, then forget it completely! There is no rule that says couples must have a first dance; instead, focus on what works best for both of you and your personalities.

No matter what type of couple you are, there are plenty of creative ways to have a special moment without having to worry about performing in front of all your friends and family members. So don't stress about getting up on stage – come up with an alternative that works best for both of you and enjoy every second!