And The Bride Wore... House Of Ollichon, Lizzie McQuade and Kat Maconie
Photography by Lee Garland
OMG! This has to be the cutest un-wedding look we’ve seen yet!
I can’t tell you how excited I was to stalk Ruth’s wedding on Instagram having met her just a few weeks before at The Un-Wedding Show in Shoreditch. I was immediately drawn to Ruth and her bright red hair, loud jumpsuit, and amazing shoes (which I’m still trying to source for myself) It was Ruth’s second time at The Un-Wedding Show, having previously attended with a friend who was getting married… LOVE this support from un-wedding brides!
I remember Ruth telling me about the struggles she had when she was shopping for her outfit:
‘I did not suit wedding dresses. I tried all shapes but there was something about my curly hair and pink cheeks that didn’t work with the body stood in front of the mirror. I hated the fact that I wasn’t comfortable and couldn’t walk, move or DANCE freely!’
I could have written that myself. It’s kind of the reason The Un-Wedding exists so more couples stop trying to squish themselves into the traditional wedding shaped moulds when it’s just not them!
I mean, how INCREDIBLE is Ruth’s version of ‘bridal’? You don’t even need to know her to know that this playful yet glamorous ensemble suits her personality to a ‘T’, right? Ruth opted for a dancefloor-friendly halterneck jumpsuit from House Of Ollichon. She teamed it perfectly with an oversized bow from Lizzie McQuade with a gold leopard print embellishment and train, making it the perfect alternative to a wedding veil. And she didn’t stop there, oh no, Ruth also opted for a pair of statement wedding shoes from iconic shoe designer Kat Maconie cos shoes are her thing and that’s what weddings should be about, right?
Anyway, back to the start!
Ruth and Phil first met at a house party in Manchester… this is how all the best relationships start IMO
‘Almost like a cartoon character, my jaw hit the floor. His brother and friends ran a club night called Audio Farm (now a brilliant festival) and Phil, who was at Uni in Liverpool, had come home for the opening night. I couldn’t take my eyes off him and at this point had been staring for a while and probably looked a bit creepy and weird. I sashayed over, full of beans with bags of confidence, I knew exactly just what to say…
‘MAYONNAISE!’
‘CHICKEN, RICE AND PEAS!’
I just knew that yelling all of my favourite foods at him would grab his attention, and as if by magic, it did!’
Needless to say Ruth’s bizarre pulling technique led to the couple sharing their first kiss that very night. Take notes people!
So, Ruth and Phil have been inseparable since 2009 and finally got engaged in 2019 for their 10 year anniversary.
‘Phil had planned a trip to Italy for my 30th and for our 10 year anniversary. One day before we flew he said ‘I know there is a lot of expectation but I need to save up to propose. I love you so, trust me, it’s going to happen, but it’s not going to happen on this trip.
Of course, I smiled and said ‘no problem babe’ and downed my gin and tonic whilst simultaneously ordering another one.
We were in Venice and the one thing Phil really wanted to do was a gondola ride. We were up early and wandering after breakfast when we passed a huge, beautiful, gold and black gondola with a ginger gondolier.
A GINGER Italian?! We had to be friends!
Suddenly Phil looked all flushed and flustered which is rare.
We were sailing around and I was loving the little tour from our new mate then Phil asked me to turn around for a minute. I did what he asked wondering if he had been tricking me this whole time because if this was a pair of shell earrings from the market I was going to scream the whole of Venice down! All i could feel was him elbowing my back and trying to get something out of his pocket. He got himself sorted and asked me to turn back around and there it was - an engagement ring and Phil’s big grin and he asked me to marry him.
I screamed the whole of Venice down anyway, so much so, that the ginger gondolier thought I was being attacked!
We spent the rest of the day drinking champagne and Aperol spritz in the sunshine!’
Wedding planning priorities
Ruth and Phil enjoyed a 2 year engagement, setting themselves a £20k budget.
Self-proclaimed ‘disgustingly organised’ Ruth had organised the venue, food, band and flowers within the first 6 months but all the personal touches took time, right up until the day before in fact.
The couple had no particular theme but decided what was important to both of them to set the tone for the day and it went a little something like this:
Informal, constant joy and FUN!
Bride to speak (and SING!)
AMAZING live music
DELICIOUS food
ESPRESSO MARTINIS
COLOUR
Original vows
Short Service
RECYCLE + REPURPOSE
‘Before we started planning, we both agreed on what we didn’t want and what we’d loved from previous weddings.’
They held onto a few traditions that were important to them including Ruth’s dad walking her down the aisle and my personal favourite, the first dance. Ruth also decided to keep her outfit a secret until the wedding because let’s face it, that get-up deserves MAXIMUM IMPACT!
Wedding traditions you don’t need to do
In true un-wedding style, the couple decided to switch out the traditions that didn’t suit them. These included:
Not staying together the night before the wedding
Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue
Tossing the bouquet
Changing your name
Only the men give speeches. ALL THE WOMEN spoke!!
‘We didn’t do wedding favours in the end, we’d thought of lots of ideas but decided against it, and in hindsight, I’m glad. That money went behind the bar on espresso martinis!’
Make new traditions
‘Instead of reenacting the ring giving at the humanist ceremony we painted each other onto giant eggs as a bit of fun and gave them to each other during the vows.’
And why not eh?!
Like many of the weddings you will have been to or read about lately, Ruth and Phil’s big day was affected by Covid. On top of disappointment and cancellations they sadly lost a grandparent along the way and Ruth’s godmother was unable to attend due to catching Covid.
‘Covid changed our plans dramatically but we didn’t let it get us down. Well, we did, for a solid month but then we moved on. We continued with the legal ceremony as planned (as you were allowed 15 people at the time) but we moved the humanist ceremony and party weekend to the following year and it was SO WORTH THE WAIT! We nearly didn’t bother but I’m so glad we did!’
The best bits of the wedding day
‘We loved all the key moments. The ceremony and beautiful poems that were written and read, the speeches and champagne. The time away with the photographer which was some of the only moments we had just the 2 of us. The first dance, the bands and the confetti canons… that was the official time to be drunk and dance our socks off with loved ones! Loved up conversations in the bathroom with family and friends. And taking my HUSBAND to bed because I was the last woman standing!’
Advice for couples planning their wedding
Ruth has come up with some cracking advice for other couples planning their modern wedding.
‘If anything makes you really stressed - don’t bother. The most important things on the day are the people who are there, a beautiful and personal ceremony, good food, booze and music!
Stick to your budget and ask for help if you need it.
Make sure you have time for just the 2 of you.
Add in simple and special things that are unique to the 2 of you. It really makes the day shine. We painted each other as eggs for our ceremony. Totally ridiculous but our guests loved it!
Don’t drink until you eat! You’ll last all night, remember everything and be the last woman standing on the dancefloor!’
Stellar advice from a stellar bride!
CONGRATULATIONS RUTH AND PHIL! See more from their incredible wedding celebration in the galley below!